Happiness isn’t a destination.

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If there was only one thing I could tell anyone, it would be to remember that happiness isn’t a destination.

Happiness isn’t the day you get that job, the day you meet the one, or the day you buy a house. Happiness is a state of mind. Once you get that job, you’ll want that house.

If goals are all that brings you happiness, you will not feel happy with yourself.

You have to look at what you have right now and appreciate it. It may not be what you’ve always wanted. But that doesn’t mean you can’t be happy with it.

People think their happiness is based off this picture in their head of how life should be. Screw that picture. Life never ends up how it should. It would be kind of boring if it did.

Set goals and achieve them. Be proud and happy for them. But never ever let that control your happiness. Never let a person or a thing control your happiness.

Happiness is a choice. Embrace your life and what you have right now. You are lucky to have what you have, love it and be thrilled with the life you have given yourself.

Never give up on the thought that happiness is how you look at your life and yourself.

Two Different Lives.

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“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” -Wayne Dyer

I think its crazy how different my life is now than it was just a few months ago. Oh how cliché I sound. I literally woke up one day and everything had changed. I used to be the homebody who sat in my dorm and studied. I would usually go home on the weekends, and when I didn’t I stayed in, most of the time by myself. I was happy in some aspects but my social life at school was almost non-existent except for my roommates. Now I’m always busy. I’m either studying, going to meetings, doing things for my clubs, or being with my friends. I still enjoy my alone time though. I am enjoying the usual college night life.

I am happy. I was happy then too. How is that possible? How is it possible that I’ve live two totally different lives and have been happy in each? I feel as if I was an entirely different person then, I don’t even recognize myself anymore. Not in a bad way though. I’m always talking about change, I’ve had a lot recently. I just find it incredible that I can lead two different lives and love both of them and what they have brought me.

I’ve made choices that I never would have even thought about before. I look at life in an entirely new light.  A brighter light. I want something totally different out of life now. I’ve learned that happiness is not how you live your life, its how you feel about life. Everyday, you can choose to be happy.

You are not.

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“I am who I am today because of the choices I made yesterday.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

I recently read this quote and fell madly in love with it. Recently I’ve made a lot of decisions that has changed me as a person and taught me things about myself that I never knew. But no matter what decisions I make, it is nobody else’s business. I do not care if you approve of my decisions, I do not care what you think I am because of my decisions. My choices are exactly that, mine. You have no influence on my decisions and have no right to judge me on them. I know when my decisions are mistakes, you don’t need to remind me. I know when I go about my decisions the wrong way, you do not need to judge me. I know the decisions I made, but that does not make me the words you are calling me. All of the decisions and choices I make are mine. They change me as a person. They don’t affect you or your life, so don’t worry about them. I have made so many choices recently and while they may not have been my best decisions, they made me who I am today. I would not change that for anything. Choices and mistakes are lessons. I learn from them all. I don’t need anyone telling me otherwise. My good friends will support me no matter what I do. That’s exactly what they do. If you’re not here to support me, I dont need you, or want you, in my life. They can tell me I’m wrong, I’ll probably agree, but I only need to hear it once. The friends I have who don’t judge me for the mistakes I make and realize I’m human and not perfect, they are my true friends. You are not.