My life has been crazy and I’ve made a lot of mistakes.
But looking back, I wouldn’t change a damn thing.
Yesterday I was pondering if I had wasted my time with some things and I realized the answer was no.
Even if it doesn’t seem like it affected my life or taught me anything, it did.
Nothing is a waste of time.
I tell my students that all the time.
Every single thing in a person’s life is a learning experience. Whether its school, their love life, social life, sports. Anything and everything. There is never a second that goes by where we don’t learn something new.
You finally ended high school. I know you could not wait to get out of there, too many years with the same people. Remember who your true friends are, three of them will still be texting you, snapchatting (you’ll understand in a few years), and being there for you. Don’t take their silence during the semester as they don’t want to see you on breaks. You’ll be the first person they text.
I know you’re in love but in a few years, you’ll realize that even though he’s a great guy, he isn’t the one for you. You’ll learn that once again later in college. Heartbreak sucks. It’ll take a while to get over and you won’t even know who you are. It is okay. You’ll find yourself. You’ll make A LOT of mistakes, don’t regret them. Don’t regret them because you have awful judgmental friends. Right in the prime of your heartbreak- you’ll meet the best friend you’ll ever have. She’ll surprise you, make you laugh, and always be there for dressing up and going out. Always.
Physics is going to suck- don’t worry about it too much. You’ll manage the rest of college just fine. You will eventually get an iPhone! Congrats, enjoy mom’s flip phone after you break your current one. Teaching is where you are supposed to be. Even those days when you’re not sure- you’ll learn soon enough you couldn’t do anything else with your life. Freshman and sophomore year you will have an amazing roommate. Don’t take her for granted, she won’t always be around.
Don’t judge a book by its cover. People will surprise you. You will surprise you.
My most important advice: Live it up. It is over before you know it. It is okay to stay out late, it’s okay the spend that money, its okay to kiss that boy. Don’t regret a thing.
I’m proud of who you are and you are going to love this roller coaster we go through called college.
Its only a little more than a month until I graduate from college. The end of an amazing era and the start of another. Its mind blowing, exhilarating, and also terrifying. I am so proud of myself. I have pushed myself to be the best me I can be. I had my first interview for a teaching job yesterday. I did not get a second interview. But that is okay. It was my first one, I was nervous, and I did the best I could. Sometimes it is just not a fit.
I have truly been living up the last few months of college. I’m going out on weeknights. I’ve been saying you know what: yes I would love to do this with you. I’m spending money I don’t have and spending as much time with my friends as I can. Because its never going to be like this again, ever. I am okay with that and not okay with that in every way possible.
My entire floor is covered with clean laundry because I have not had the time-or care- to spend folding it. I’m spending it with my friends. I’m spending it attempting to be the best goddamn student teacher I can be.
I am so proud of where I am today. It might not be where I expected. And my life might be a mess. But I couldn’t be happier right where I am in my own crazy world.
My entire life I’ve always been shy and quiet when first meeting people. Some people make me feel comfortable enough that I can open up, but not most. I’ve been told recently that I seem standoffish and cold.
Once people get to know me, they see the real me. But sometime you don’t get past those first impressions.
Obviously I’ve gotten various jobs and other things where I had to interview, I made a good impression then. Why can’t I when I first meet people who could be my friends?
I wish I knew what I was doing to make people feel this way. I never viewed myself as coming off rude, just quiet. I guess it all depends on who is judging you. People are too quick to judge.
I think sometimes people don’t understand the meaning of being a friend. If someone is happy, what makes someone think they can tell them what they are doing is wrong? I understand that all people have their opinions, but forcing them onto your friend? Its one thing to voice your opinion, its another to start drama over it. I think every person’s life is their choice. They decide what makes them happy and ultimately, nobody else really has a say. I think people get too wrapped up in their thoughts to take a second and step back. If your friend is happy, why are you the one upsetting them over something? Especially when that something isn’t any of your business.
My most true friends are the ones who I know will accept me and love me and never judge me for anything I do. I have two people in my life that I can truly say that about. And you know what, they are the only two people I really tell anything to. Because they understand that I am who I am and being my friend means accepting me for that. They never try to change me. They, while they tell me their takes and opinions, never force them on me or expect me to agree with them. They realize my life is mine.
I know friendships are about making the other person better. However, sometimes the only person who can know whats good for them is them. If they aren’t getting hurt and they are happy, who are you to step in? If they and all the people involved did nothing wrong, how is it your place to tell them what makes them happy isn’t right?
I have always been a firm believer that it is better to have a few good friends than a bunch of okay friends. I think it has always just been a way for me to justify the lack of friends I have.
I realize its my fault. I come off guarded, there are very few people who understand me enough that I feel comfortable around. I think my inability to let people in has left me with very few good friends.
Don’t get my wrong, the friends I have are the best I could ever ask for. That is also part of the problem, I don’t accept anything but the best. Unless you’re a true and good friend, I don’t really care to be your friend.
All and all, the days and nights that I do end up sitting home alone, they’re my fault. Half because I enjoy being alone, half because I can’t figure out how to hold onto many friendships.
I’m a kind person, I’m a lot of fun to be around, and I’m a good friend. Its not that I don’t have anything to offer. It has been like this my entire life. I thank the wonderful friends I do have for putting up with me.
But sometimes, I can’t help but wish I had more people. Or the people I do have would have time or would like to hang out with me as much as I do them.
I truly believe every single person is or has been in my life for a reason. There is a reason some people have come and gone, and a reason some have stayed. There is a reason I fell in love with him. There is a reason he was the only person who has ever truly seen me. There is a reason it didn’t last. It was never supposed to. He taught me more things about myself and life and love that I could ever explain. I’ve had boys come into my life to show me exactly what I don’t want, and exactly what I do want. I’ve had friends that have come in and showed me many things too. I’ve learned that I’ll be friends with anyone, even if they aren’t a good friend. I’m finally learning what it means to have a good friend. I’ve been shown what it means to have really shitty ones too.
There have been a lot of people who have left my life. They were here for only a flash or a very long time. But they’re no longer in my life. This has come from many different reasons. Whether it be time, space, fights, growing apart, growing up, growing different, they’re not in my life anymore. I’ll always miss them. And their memories. But there is a reason they were here when they were and why they aren’t here anymore. I guess thats the hardest part. Accepting that they aren’t here for a reason. Or that you really miss who they used to be. You don’t know them anymore, you can’t miss them.
Then there are the people who entered your life and have never left. Whether they are in my daily life or we fade in and out, there are a select few people who have proven to me that they will never be going anywhere. I don’t have that with many people, I never have.
Sometimes I see friendships of mine that have ended, and I blame myself. Or that person. Its nobody’s fault. We grew apart. It happens. It doesn’t mean I’m a bad friend or they are a bad friend. It is what it is.
I think the same can be said for love. I’m lucky to have felt what its like to be in love. I also know what it feels like to fall out of love. And I can’t figure out how to be okay with that. But I just have to remember that every single person has come into my life, and left, for a reason.