I’ve always been someone who forgives, but second chances have always been hard. I have always given people that chance but it never really worked out. The person disappointed me or things were never the same again.
I gave someone a second chance too quickly and it turned out to be the biggest lesson I’ve ever learned in my life.
And here I am, years later, giving them another.
I decided there was no reason not to. The differences I’ve seen in my life over the past years are life changing. I believe that this could be the same for them.
I’ve decided to not look at it as a second chance, but to look at it as a new beginning.
For the longest time growing up, I thought the one for me would find me. I thought he would come to me and I’d never second guess if he was it or not. It wasn’t until I became a little older that I realized I had a say in who I wanted to be with. It wasn’t until I matured that I saw that it was my choice and they had to work to impress me too.
In disney movies, the guy showed up and that was it. But I realized, that’s not how it works.
The guy shows up, you fall in love, and a year or three later, you see he isn’t it.
You see that you have the power to make that choice.
The other day I blogged about how words mean different things to different people. One of my examples was the word mother. Nobody has the same personal definition but in honor of mother’s day, I would like to share mine.
Without my mother, I would never be the strong independent woman I am today. If she had not stayed home and took care of my brother and I, I would not be the caring person I am today. Every single aspect of my life has been driven by my mother. Whether it was me learning from her mistakes or following in her footsteps, she is the reason.
She is my best friend. I don’t tell her everything, but she is always the first person I call. For everything, every time. Its a relationship of ease and constant love. Its never forced and its always fun.
To me, mother means comfort and home. I can make food just like she taught me and somehow hers is always better.
I know one day, when I’m lucky enough to become a mother, she’ll be getting 3 a.m. phone calls of desperation. Who else would I call but the amazing woman who raised my brother and I?
She always says I make good decisions, whether it be about choosing boys or careers. But that is because she is my example. She never had to worry about me being successful because she instilled that into me from day one.
“All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to my mother” -Abraham Lincoln
My life has been crazy and I’ve made a lot of mistakes.
But looking back, I wouldn’t change a damn thing.
Yesterday I was pondering if I had wasted my time with some things and I realized the answer was no.
Even if it doesn’t seem like it affected my life or taught me anything, it did.
Nothing is a waste of time.
I tell my students that all the time.
Every single thing in a person’s life is a learning experience. Whether its school, their love life, social life, sports. Anything and everything. There is never a second that goes by where we don’t learn something new.